Pieces of me

I’ve recently started back at work after the birth of my son Finn on 12.1.21 (yes, the coolest birthday ever!) I’ve been enjoying the time off (well, different pace of life) with my family and getting to know this gorgeous little human. 

Recently I was speaking with a friend about how everything was going with my motherhood journey. And she asked “so how are you finding your new identity?”

I really struggled with this subject during my pregnancy. The “role” and “title” of mother and the “new identity” kept coming up in conversation. I felt very fearful for a lot of my pregnancy about losing myself I’d heard so many women had felt they had lost their identity during their transition to motherhood. I also really struggled with this concept of new role and identity as it felt like I had to leave behind ALL of my old self and my old life and I would somehow become a new person. I just couldn’t get on board with that.

My work is built around helping people to connect with who they really are. I truly believe that you are who you are, always. Uniquely you. But over the years it can get lost under a mound of roles, titles, expectations, opinions and outsider views. You lose that connection to the authentic you and it can be hard to see yourself clearly. 

So of course, I was going to fight fiercely to defend and hold onto the person I was. And the person I am. I struggled and pushed and rallied against this new role, even pushing away the “mum” title and rejecting it. Because I felt like it was going to take over my life and my identity, I wasn’t able to see at the time how this role and identity could fit. I wanted to have a family and I wanted so much to have this little person join my world, but I didn’t want to lose myself!

However, as I spoke to this friend, I realised that this new role was integrating into my life. I said to her that motherhood was now a piece of me. And there are many pieces of me. There’s my work of course, there’s my family, my friends, my passions, my travel (a big part), my experiences and so much more. This journey and this new piece is a pretty massive one, arguably one of the biggest additions I’ll ever add into the picture, but it’s still a piece of me. 

I said that I see it as a puzzle. We are all a beautiful puzzle with many many pieces. Without all the pieces, you can’t see the complete picture. Sometimes we lose pieces (check between the sofa cushions). Sometimes we get pieces muddled or in the wrong order. Sometimes there are so many pieces, we don’t know how to bring it all together and get a clear view. But it’s important to know that it’s only when we have all those pieces together, that we get to see the whole and beautiful picture as it’s meant to be.

Motherhood is another piece of the Emma puzzle. I am still me. I am first and foremost Emma. Of course, I’m still integrating this change and navigating this journey (and will do for the rest of my life really) but I’m very much enjoying this additional piece and adding it into the bigger picture.

And you lovely one, are a beautiful puzzle. A combination of hundreds of pieces coming together to make up the full picture. But perhaps you have just misplaced a few pieces – I can help you find them!

Your personal brand is made up of all these pieces. It is the unique combination of skills, experience, and personality that you want the world to see you. It is the telling of your story, and how it reflects your conduct, behaviour, spoken and unspoken words, and attitudes.

It’s what makes you, you!

So, is it time to put the pieces of you together so we can all see the beautiful picture?


Your Personal Brand is your greatest asset

It’s true! Nothing is more powerful than you when it comes to your professional life. And you are your personal brand. It’s in you, already! I promise! But without sharing it or consistently showing up as your authentic self, others won’t get to experience it and you’re losing out on an amazing opportunity for connection.


So let me reframe it to give some perspective. Your personal brand is like your business card. It’s what people see when they think or talk about you or when you walk into a room. It’s the lasting impression you leave. When you hand out your business card, you are saying “this is a summary of who I am and what I’m about”. Your personal brand should do the same!


Like business cards, personal brands require maintenance and a refresh every so often. You might have changed your work situation, location or simply want a new look and feel – so you go and update your business card. But are you doing the same with your personal brand? Are you continuously sharing you as you progress and develop?


Being clear on who you are and how you present that to the world means that you’re ever evolving self will continue to be at the forefront. Although you’re fundamentally, always you, things in your life do change and what you want for your life certainly can. You may have connections who met you years ago, who could greatly help you with where you are now. But they don’t know what you want, where you’re going or what you’re doing – if you do not share it. Whether you are putting a message out there or not, those connections are forming an opinion of you. So it’s important to take control of the story and lead the conversation. 


Being in control of your story is what personal branding is all about. You’re ensuring that the world is up to date with who you are professionally, and of course personally. When you’re in control you can ensure that your greatest asset (YOU) is presented how you want it to be received – just like a business card. 


The great thing about this is that you have total control over the design! I’ve worked with clients in times of transition to help them update their messaging, step into who they are now and share that with the world. 


One of the best tips I can share when it comes to networking is to present yourself how YOU want to be seen on your business card. The more specific the better. Because this is your story and what you choose to tell people, is what they will believe! The same is true for your personal brand – if you want to be seen a certain way, position yourself in that way and then show up!


You wouldn’t hand someone an old business card, so why would you share an outdated view of yourself. Is it time to focus on your brand?

Personal Brand

Invest in yourself!

When was the last time you invested in yourself?

It’s something I’m really passionate about both in our personal and professional lives. And as someone who believes in walking the walk as well as talking the talk, investing in myself is something I’m consistently trying to do.

In October, I was listening to one of my favourite podcasts, The Thoughtful Travel Podcast with Amanda Kendle, and the topic of Writing Retreats came up. This is something I’ve always thought sounded rather lovely but a bit luxurious and a maybe one-day thing. A “wouldn’t it be nice” kind of idea.

In this year of limited travel, it seemed even more luxurious and also slightly out of reach. So I joined the host in daydreaming and putting it on the “another day” list.

The following day I was in a Facebook group where the writing retreat topic came up again! And someone had posted they were actually hosting one.

The palm trees in the post instantly caught my eye and I clicked the link. I couldn’t believe it! This retreat was to be hosted in Mission Beach in Queensland ( the state where I live and where travel was open). It was happening the following month and with this crazy year I have been booking very little ahead so the dates actually worked for me. And to my greatest surprise, it didn’t have the exorbitant price tag that usually comes attached with anything titled “retreat”.

I was essentially in on the spot! I contacted the host, the lovely Kerstin Pilz from Write Your Journey, and said “how do I sign up?!”

It all felt so right! The timing, the tropical location, the writing element and most importantly, the space for me!

So little announcement: I’m actually currently 7.5 months pregnant. So life’s about to look quite a bit different. More on this soon – but in terms of the timing, it couldn’t have been more perfect.

I saw this as a gift to myself. But more importantly, an investment in myself. Creating space and time to be creative. A chance to be alone with my brain and to just see where my ideas and thoughts took me.

It turned out to be the perfect getaway and the most wonderful five days of reconnecting with myself. Travel and writing are two of my greatest passions and to be able to indulge in these again really filled my cup.

I know that I need time to myself and time to switch off. It’s so important to find out what it is that will reconnect you to you. In our lives, we get so caught up with to-do lists, the daily grind and always pushing forward. It’s so easy to lose that connection to self along the way.

Even on my first day at the retreat, I felt more myself than I had felt for months (I had felt quite off-kilter – a result of the pregnancy and the topsy turvy year that has been 2020). Knowing what would bring me, as Kerstin says, “back home to myself” really helped to make this decision. Investing in myself was a no brainer.

I cam back refreshed, full of ideas, writing more than I have in months and thoroughly enjoying the creative process again!

So when was the last time you really felt like yourself?

Do you know how to “come home” to you?

Is it time to invest in yourself?

Talk to me! I love hearing from you and getting to know you better. So hit reply and let me know what’s happening in your world.